Scorpio Season Is Coming

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Get ready to indulge in hot sex, intense love poems, and the transformative power of beauty because Scorpio season is upon us. Saturday, October 23, through Sunday, November 21, is about to be the sexiest, spookiest time of year — mark my words. 

No matter what your sign is, the tortured artist in us all will be brought front and center. However, Scorpios and those with the sign heavily in their charts will feel most empowered during Scorpio season. You may want to check in with your placements to see just how intense this time will be for you. 

As Allure's resident astrologer and a Scorpio myself, I know a thing or two about making the most out of this epic time of year. Let's do this.

What's Scorpio all about, anyway? 

Just like the other fixed signs — Taurus, Leo, and Aquarius — Scorpios tend to be creatures of habit. Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn), on the other hand, tend to be leaders, and mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces) are flexible and down with change. The fixation most near and dear to Scorpios, in particular, is dark glamour. Although every sign gets to enjoy a bit of black lipstick and passionate sex during this time, Scorpios live in the shadows all year long. 

As a water sign (along with Cancer and Pisces), Scorpio is also all about emotions. They feel them — from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows —  deeply, passionately, and boundlessly. Feelings they're experiencing for a partner are often expressed in extravagant ways. They're the ones who think sending a former lover a vial of their blood made into a necklace or get matching tattoos after the third date is a good idea. Intense is the word most commonly associated with Scorpios, and they tend to live up to the hype. 

Scorpio is ruled by Mars, the passionate warrior who loves fucking and fighting. As a result, the zodiac's scorpions tend to be incredibly interested in sex. Unlike air signs, who are fantastic at flings, Scorpios prefer to fall in love hard and fast before rolling around in the sheets. And once things heat up, they're typically loyal for the long run. 

Another ruling planet for Scorpio is Pluto. As the god of the Underworld, Pluto allows us to explore our shadow side through self-care techniques, such as therapy, meditation, and sex. The influence of this planet also helps us confront death, and as a result, make the most out of life, which could explain Scorpio's intensity and devotion to constant transformation. 

Unsurprisingly, the tarot card associated with this sign is the Death card. This startling name may help with their goth cred, but this major arcana also centers on renewal and self-discovery after a time of change. Scorpios often live dozens of lives in one lifetime, starting over again and again to learn more about themselves. They are constantly evolving, but when they do settle down, it's usually for the long haul. Although a breakup with a Scorpio may involve a morbid touch, these creepy critters always come out on top — with new hair and a healthier attitude about life. 

How can I use the power of Scorpio season to my advantage? 

During Scorpio season, everyone gets a chance to tap into the high-octane energy of having a metaphorical stinger. As this is an intense time, you'll probably want to focus on experiencing life-changing orgasms, not heartbreak. To avoid the latter, beware of jealousy. Not only are Scorpios prone to it, but they are also the detectives of the zodiac, making them excellent private eyes and journalists. If a Scorpio becomes interested in something — or someone — they uncover every single fact about that thing or person on the internet and beyond. 

This inquisitive energy can help you reach perfection in your latest hobbies or even executing your dream Halloween costume. However, if you use this power for evil, you'll find yourself doom scrolling through your partner's ex's Instagram and starting a fight over something that happened five years ago. Avoid deep dives into your lover's past or any suspicions you may have during this time and take their words at face value. Put this hungry energy into learning a new skill or changing up your look before the holiday-filled Sagittarius season begins. 

As the sign of the transformation, no one does makeovers better than a Scorpio. This season is an ideal time to change your hair color, get a new tattoo, add another piercing to one (or both) of your ears, or experiment with eye makeup outside of your typical comfort zone. Fellow emotional water signs, Cancer and Pisces, would be wise to lean into beauty rituals as an act of self-care during Scorpio season. You may find yourself feeling extra vulnerable during this time. Scorpios may have a stinger, but it's usually used to sting people before scuttling off into their caves after a moment of vulnerability. Meanwhile, air signs, Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius, should practice grounding exercises, such as tapping or meditation, during Scorpio season. Usually, you can live life safely detached from emotions, but Scorpio season tends to bring up all of the feels. 

Although everyone feels seductive during this time, fire signs, Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius, will feel their sexuality in full force. Remind yourself that sex is healthy and natural and explore kinks without any silly shame holding you down. As Scorpio season does fall around Halloween, and fire signs understand the power of costume, slip on a wig or play around with new makeup to help you step into your most fantastic fantasies. 

If you're satisfied with your current look, your skin-care routine can undergo a refresh. Test out a toner or change up your cleanser selection with a formula that better removes all your signature sultry makeup with one step. Also, take advantage of Halloween to play dress-up. You don't have to even go out, especially if you're concerned about COVID-19, but, for the love of infamous Scorpio Marie Antoinette, at least put on something fancy and frivolous for the selfies. 

As Allure's resident astrologer, Sophie Saint Thomas believes in the power of glamour and embracing one's sexuality — all the while, looking to astrology to navigate the intricacies of modern life. She is also the author of Sex Witch: Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection and the upcoming Glamour Witch: An Empowering Sex-Positive Guide with Spells and Witchy Beauty Tips for all Budgets and Body Types. 


How the Fatal Flaw Friend Theory Changed My Relationships

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When I finally succumbed to creating a TikTok account after resisting for far too long, I learned what everyone else in the world has already known for years: The app is full of fascinating, educational content. I’ve learned how to find the right beauty products for my skin type, how to change a light fixture, and, most recently, how to manage my friendships. During my routine nightly scroll, I stumbled across a TikTok from Tinx (AKA TikTok’s “big sister”) in which she explains the “Fatal Flaw Friend Theory.” After applying this rule to my friendships, all of my relationships became richer, more meaningful, and intentional. So what is the rule and why is it so important? Read on for my experience and how you can apply the rule to your own relationships. 


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What is the “Fatal Flaw Friend Theory?”

My experience

How to apply the Fatal Flaw Theory to your friendships


What is the “Fatal Flaw Friend Theory?”

The rule (because it’s “more a rule than a theory,” as Tinx says) states that everyone has their own fatal flaw or a flaw that is going to cause you the most distress. Once you realize each friend’s fatal flaw, you either have to accept it and choose to not be bothered by it or rethink the friendship. If the fatal flaw is truly unacceptable and something you can’t look past (like constantly needing validation, telling harmful white lies, or always canceling plans at the last minute), the friendship should probably be reevaluated. Otherwise, you’ll constantly be mad at a friend for a simple factor of their personality you’re already aware of and can expect. In other words, identify what irks you the most about each friend, and then decide if it’s something you want to accept and not let bother you or if it’s something worth rethinking the friendship over. 


@tinx Answer to @jfeldman20 another tinx theory that has served me well #adviceforgirls #friendshipadvice #theories ♬ original sound – Tinx



My experience

I learned to appreciate my friends more

As someone who didn’t meet her best friends until college (except you, mom—love you!), I’m less experienced with friendships than those who grew up sharing halves of a bracelet from Claire’s. Because it took me so long to find friends whose personalities and values aligned with my own, I always worried that if some of their traits bothered me, it meant that we must not be good for each other. Tinx’s rule helped me realize that some flaws should be accepted. Just because a friend has a personality flaw doesn’t mean they’re not a great friend.

My two best friends are strong-willed, less-than-patient, leadership types (they’re fire signs—they can’t help it!). This can sometimes rub me the wrong way, but viewing our friendships through the Fatal Flaw Friend Theory, I saw that small annoyances (like being 15 minutes early to everything or asking for advice they won’t use) are just that: small annoyances. I can accept these minor flaws because when I accept them for who they are, I’m able to see that my friends add so much value to my life. I stopped feeling annoyed when they were extra early or couldn’t sit still, as those were traits I could expect. The Fatal Flaw Friend Theory reminded me to take my friends’ shortcomings less seriously. Instead of getting annoyed, I’m able to take a step back and remember that their flaws aren’t worth taking away from all the positive aspects of our relationships.


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…and I realized which friendships weren’t worth keeping

On the other hand, a couple of other friends are overly competitive and have a history of spewing backhanded compliments. I tried to accept these friends for who they are, thinking I would be a bad friend if I didn’t. But after realizing their fatal flaw might actually be fatal for our friendship, I realized that the cons simply outweighed the pros. Their fatal flaw was not something I could (or wanted to) accept and appreciate, so why bring myself so much negativity getting annoyed about traits that I could expect from them? It was up to me to either let their ongoing behaviors get to me every day or distance myself from them and focus on the people who bring me joy.  

Ultimately, the fatal flaw theory states that if you spend more time in a relationship feeling bad than good, then it’s probably time to walk away. But if a friendship is worth having, accept people for who they are so you’re not spending your relationships feeling annoyed or frustrated. This rule has become my new measuring stick of friendships past, present, and future: Past relationships ended because we couldn’t accept each other’s flaws, my current friendships are more fulfilling because I’m more patient and accepting, and I know to expect that future friends will also have flaws, but it’s up to me to find the flaws that are worth accepting (because I have a long list of flaws my best friends accept too!). 


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How to apply the Fatal Flaw Theory to your friendships

1. Check in with yourself

It’s common to get so lost in a friendship that you don’t question if you actually enjoy it. Maybe you are stuck in routine, have been friends for so long, or feel like you need this friend for affirmation or connections. You might not even realize that the friendship isn’t truly bringing you joy. Take time to reflect on how you feel when you spend time with your friend. If your friend’s flaws are so detrimental that you dread being around them, there may be a problem you just can’t overlook. 


2. Get clear on your goals

What are you hoping to get out of the friendship? Are you looking for a casual shopping partner, someone you can confide in, or maybe something in between? Take the time to consider what your goals are for a friendship (and you might have different goals for different friends). All friendships serve a different purpose; for example, if you’re looking for a lifelong friend who’s always there for you, but they’re someone who never picks up their phone, you’ll never feel satisfied with the relationship because your goal isn’t being met. Not everyone can be everything to you, and it’s OK to have different friends for different purposes, but make sure your needs are being met.


3. Set boundaries 

If you’re not totally enjoying a relationship but aren’t ready to give up on it, first try establishing some personal boundaries. Boundaries provide others with the guidelines for how you expect to be treated and what you won’t tolerate. For example, if you have a competitive friend whose behavior stresses you out (whether it’s competition over a job, a relationship, or your friend group), take responsibility for your part in the competitive dynamic and express to your friend what you want your dynamic to be instead. If someone isn’t willing or able to abide by these guidelines, they may not be worth your time. A good friend will always respect your needs and work to grow together. 


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